Author Jeff Brown gives a very important insight about the Dalai Lama’s tongue-sucking incident with a young boy.

Jeff Brown is a Canadian Dean’s Honour university student list with a law and medicine prize in law school. He worked as an apprentice with famous criminal lawyer Eddie Greenspan prepped a high-profile murder trial while writing both the cross examinations and a 168-page jury address and was on the verge of opening his own law practice when a call for a sacred purpose shifted him in another direction.

With a burning hunger for self-discovery and the quest for the truth while searching for his authentic face he studied Bioenergetics practiced as a body-centered psychotherapist and completed an MA in Pscyhology in San Francisco. At the heart of these explorations he found his calling as an author teacher enrealment activist and grounded spiritualist which he honoured:

On his Facebook page and in one of his website’s articles titled “The Dalai Lama is a patriarchal construct – let’s focus on the child he dishonored” Jeff Brown gave the following important observation about the Dalai Lama’s “tongue-sucking” incident with a young boy. Many are justifying the Dalai Lama’s action as a cultural practice and that it is fine to put your tongue out and ask a child to touch it and suck it with the tongue:

“As we engage in the back-and forth-dialogue about the Dalai Lama’s ‘tongue-sucking’ incident with a young boy I marvel at how little focus there is on the boy’s experience. It is not for me to say that he experienced this as a ‘trauma’ but it would not surprise me if he did. After all the Dalai Lama is held in high regard seen by many as a kind of Godlike figure a symbol of purity and benevolence the world over. And then he reveals himself to this little boy as just another flawed human being. And perhaps something worse.

People are spending a lot of time defending this man almost as though he is their friend or their projected Good Daddy or the one that gave them faith in the patriarchy again. They are saying that he suffers from dementia and that this event is a reflection of his illness. Or that he simply made a mistake one that we can forgive him for. Perhaps we can but I believe that there are far more important things to glean from this experience.
First we have all been suckered by the patriarchy. We have been sold one ridiculous story after another about male supremacy Godlike man (and man-like God) ascended master enlightened lineage superior blood lines (lol) elitist entitlement divine channeler the second-coming the Wizard himself. And none of it is true. These are all self-serving constructs motivated by financial egoic and power-seeking factors. I don’t care what book they read from or what ‘special’ garb they wear or what bell they clang or what title they use or what hypnotic story they tell—they are just people. And in my experience the ‘superior ones’ are usually far less substantial intelligent heartfelt or evolved than the so-called ‘common man.’ They are usually grifters and lost-boys masquerading their issues and (true) intentions behind a perfectly coiffured messianic mirage. And the sooner we dismantle these systems and replace them with something rooted in meritocracy the sooner we will liberate our species from its patriarchal trappings.
Second it is time for all of us to focus our gaze on the healing of the victim and not on the forgiving of the wrongdoer. Our tendency to gaslight suffering and to bash victimization is fundamental to our patriarchal conditioning and it is locking humanity inside of its pain. With no acknowledgment of the traumas we have endured with little support for the healing we need we are ripe for the picking by unconscionable leaders and systems. It is no accident that many religious and spiritual teachings devalue judgment gossip and anger and persistently preach the value of forgiveness. It’s a perfect set up for the perpetuation of abuse by those who run the show. They can’t be called out and if they are they must be forgiven. Little wonder so many of us spiral in and out of dissociative states and continue to hide our true-selves below a bushel of shame in this world. It is simply too uncomfortable to be here living as we are under the thumb of the delusional man.
I invite all of us to spend some time this week reflecting on the little boy who was asked to suck the tongue of a beloved guru. Let’s use this as an opportunity to connect with our hearts. What might that have felt like for him? Where might it have landed inside? How might it have impacted his experience of safety in this world? What healing modalities might be of value to him now and later in life? And how can we construct a world that shields him and all of us from the fallacious notion that there are human beings among us that were born superior? How can we co-create a true equality that begins and ends at the heart of our shared humanness?”

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